I totally advocate dancing alone. I do it all the time and encourage my students to do so as well. Now, don’t ignore people (especially girls) that want to dance with you. What I’m saying is if you don’t have anyone to dance with, then feel free to hit the floor solo. There is absolutely nothing wrong, odd, or uncomfortable about dancing by yourself.
Dancing is an extroverted activity and can say alot of positive things about your personality. If people see you dancing alone, smiling, and having a great time they may think you’re confident, carefree, an alpha male, fun, and outgoing. What guy wouldn’t want a girl thinking these things about him?! Which brings up another reason to dance solo: to meet chics!
I can’t count the number of times I’ve danced alone and had a girl come up to me to dance. It’s easier and less threatening for a girl to approach you if you are not dancing in a group. Put out the vibe that you’re out to have fun and people will pick up on it. And don’t forget to smile as you’re dancing, it lets everyone know you’re enjoying yourself.
With dancing solo, strategically placing yourself on the dance floor can make it easier for girls to notice and approach you. Typically, I’ll dance on the outside perimeter of the floor. Here I usually have more room to move and can be seen by more people (on and off the floor). I want girls to know that I’m by myself and available to dance with.
Where should you look if you don’t have a partner? If I’m dancing by myself and there is another person(s) on the floor as well, I’ll dance facing their general direction. That way I can look for approach invitations (invitations from people telling me to approach them). I don’t stare but I look in their direction, maybe looking at some point behind or around them. When there’s no one on the floor then I’ll just look around and observe what’s going on. I won’t face the same direction for too long, I’ll turn my body and look elsewhere – at the Dj, people at the bar, standing around or sitting down. Just don’t stare. While I’m dancing I’ll also look for girls that may be watching me, potential targets to approach later.
As I mentioned earlier, dancing is an extroverted activity. Most people on the dance floor just want to have a good time and probably couldn’t care less if you’re dancing alone. So enjoy grooving on your own!
This topic came as a suggestion from James, who commented on the post “Getting to a Club Early…” Thanks James and I hope it helps!
